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How We Build a Wedding Budget Around Your Priorities

  • Apr 2
  • 2 min read

Updated: Jun 1

Search online for "wedding budget breakdown" and you'll find dozens of articles telling you exactly how much you should spend on each category.


  • 40% for venue and catering

  • 10% for photography

  • 10% for entertainment

  • 8% for flowers

  • 3% for stationery


While these templates can provide a starting point, they all assume one thing: every couple values the same things.


In our experience, that's simply not true.


wedding budget breakdown pie chart

Your wedding budget priorities

The Problem with Traditional Wedding Budgets


Most wedding budgets are built by taking an average wedding and dividing the money into neat percentages. The problem is that your wedding isn't an "averaged" wedding.


  • Some couples care deeply about photography for preserving memories

  • Some care most about creating an unforgettable party

  • Some have a stunning venue in mind and are willing to make sacrifices elsewhere to get it

  • And some simply want great food, great company, and a chill experience


Trying to force every couple into the same budget formula often leads to spending money on things that aren't actually important to them.


couple dancing at wedding

We Start with Your Top Three Priorities


We'll talk through your and your partner's priorities. What do you want this day to mean for both of you? How do you want your guests to feel? Then, rather than fitting your wedding into a budgeted box by asking, "how much do you want to spend on photography, venue, etc." we'll focus on

What are the three most important things about your wedding?

Once we have a firm answer to these, any element you include in your wedding should support those pillars.


If Photography and Video Matter Most


Many online budget templates allocate around 10% of the budget to photo and video.


But what if preserving memories is your highest priority?


Instead of forcing that category into an arbitrary percentage, we'll recommend someone that fits your style. As for your budget, we'll find ways to reduce spending elsewhere, such as entertainment, décor, favors, or other areas that matter less to you.


If the Venue Is Your Dream


Some couples fall in love with a venue that exceeds traditional budget recommendations.


Rather than immediately saying "that's too expensive," we look at the bigger picture.


  • Could family-style dining replace plated service?

  • Could floral installations be simplified?

  • Could a content creator replace a professional videographer?


Sometimes a dream venue is entirely achievable when the budget is adjusted intentionally around your main pillars.


If Vibe Is Everything


For some couples, the wedding is all about having the most fun, dancing, and creating an incredible party.


In those situations, investing more heavily in entertainment might make sense. That also might mean the most expensive ballroom in the city is probably not the best fit.


The goal isn't to spend less.


The goal is to spend smarter.


Final Thought: Your Budget Should Reflect Your Values


Taking control of your budget is a reflection of what matters most to you as a couple.


That's why we help build budgets around priorities, goals, and experiences.


Because your wedding budget isn't the one that follows a generic formula. It's the one that allows you to spend intentionally on the things you'll care about long after the wedding is over.





 
 

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